Dearly beloved, we have been gathered here right now to make it through this thing called⦠a season finale! Yes, it is true, today’s occurrence marks the end of absolutely the smash hit which was S2 of
Wait, So Is This A Romantic Date?
In order to commemorate that closing, just who preferable to think about it and discuss the joys and achievements of an extended distance crush, than actor and queer individual Elise Bauman? You may know Elise from Lifetime’s delightful queer Christmas rom-com which come
According To The Xmas Tree
,
but around these areas, she’s another concept definitely nearly as vaunted: Drew’s girlfriend! Yes, that is correct, this sparkling twosome was actually birthed from the fantastic queer heritage: the long distance crush.
Exactly what would it be about the long-distance crush which very attracting queers worldwide? Would it be the relative scarceness of like minded queers surrounding you? even the capacity to flirt cross country takes a few of the stress off? The three folks enter everything, AND Drew and Elise share some possibly also cute details about their unique relationship!
And of course you will find a game! This week, we make Drew play the video game that merely got over Twitter and Tiktok for a couple momentary weeks: “They can be a 10 but⦔ It is a very good time, throughout!
+ Practice Elise on
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IG
!
+
Browse Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ See
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it still rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s thighs are⦠indeed very persuasive!
+ will likely Shortz is actually the name of NYT Crossword Editor!
*the more you know*
Elise
: right after which we had gotten from the telephone, immediately after which we both hopped regarding telephone two seconds later we are like, “Therefore, the line is shut, our company is legally banned to truly get throughout the edge.”
Christina
: What i’m saying is, top among certainly my personal favorite sound memos and or messages i acquired from Drew, i can not remember which type it was available in, it absolutely was want, “I made this course of action and from now on the boundaries are shut.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it had been an actual second.
[theme tune performs]
Drew
: Hi, I’m Drew.
Christina
: And I Also’m Christina.
Drew
: And thanks for visiting
Hold Off, Is This A Romantic Date?
Christina
:
Wait, Is This A Date?
is an Autostraddle podcast presented by me personally obtaining giggles, plus the question that is on everyone’s lips, hold off, was actually this a night out together?
Drew
: We’re at the conclusion of our very own next period, and I also think we solved it, i believe.
Christina
: Yeah, i do believe I’m just bringing large finale power, like when comedies was once facing a business market, and everybody would walk in so there was one hour of applause because it ended up being like, it is the last, which is the way I’m feeling. Though to get obvious, nobody provides applauded me personally but, hateful. Thank you so much, thank you. Now I feel liked and used. Drew, that you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about that component.
Christina
: Yeah, right?
Drew:
Maybe period three we’ll obtain the intros. I’m called Drew Gregory, I am a writer for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans girl. You-know-what, In my opinion when we do another period I would like to have a fun one I throw in at the end.
Christina
: Ooh, anything spicy, you intend to jazz it up?
Drew
: Yeah, I don’t have anything today though.
Christina
: Okay, keep them desiring even more, i do believe that’s fantastic.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: i’m Christina Tucker, I am additionally a writer at Autostraddle, together with internet in particular. A podcaster, a gay dark lady, and someone who’s feeling very jazzy right here on this mid-day.
Drew
: Great, i am really grateful you are jazzy and I also’m spicy, or perhaps i am planning the possibility that sooner or later i’m going to be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you are like, I don’t know, 1st half of the movie Dune, the spruce will come. Cool research, ladies, she is unmarried. Anyway, I do have a-game for people to relax and play on this hollowed day of our finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This Is Basically The classic, and also by traditional I mean a game title that overran the net and TikTok for a couple weeks, “They May Be a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, fantastic.
Christina
: Now Drew, i will set-out some surface guidelines available, because i understand you love a follow through concern.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: When I state they are a 10, they may be a 10 to you in any way that really matters to you, that would be literally, which can be emotionally, this is just individuals you feel is actually a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, fine, many thanks.
Christina
: i really do not have any situations for what else you contained in this individual have already been undertaking in your matchmaking life, you are just gonna need to go together with your instinct and determine.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: All right?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: we will place where make that obvious, right here we get. They are a 10, even so they clap when the plane countries.
Drew
: i usually decided people were too remarkable using this, in which its like they can be a 10 which thing means they are check-out a two, come-on.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: thus I’m going to nevertheless give a pretty generous eight.
Christina
: Yeah, In my opinion which is fair. I believe eight may be the proper level of cringe removing regarding little motion. All right, this is a fantastic begin. Okay, they may be a nine nevertheless they never text you initially.
Drew
: and that I can not ask follow up concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: thus I are unable to ask, really perform they content me personally back when we text? I would personally say a five.
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Christina
: Yeah, perhaps not texting very first actually, that is harsh.
Drew
: Actually ever is actually strange.
Christina
: that is rough things. Okay, these are typically a five however they drive one every errand you’ve ever endured to perform.
Drew
: which is very nice, but i possibly could usually⦠If there have been five, we’ll offer him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But I’m sure you adore a solo jaunt in any event, you love an errand run.
Drew
:after all today my gf Elise performed drive us to an errand, and that I was extremely pleased, however, if which was the single thing she did we mightn’t be in a relationship, that has been merely an extra very little great added bonus.
Christina
: i believe which is reasonable.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: fine, they have been a seven nevertheless they merely pretend to read your work.
Drew
: See the aspect of that that bothers myself will be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we knew it might be.
Drew
: it is not the maybe not reading it. As long as they didn’t review my work its like, I’m not that, I’d be only a little, it really is like never? But it’s good, I could overcome it. Nonetheless they lie for me about that is what’s unusual for me, in order thatwill go-down to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, correct, correct. They have been a three nevertheless they get access to the criterion wardrobe.
Drew
: And perform I get that go?
Christina
: And you have accessibility, you take advantage of that access, yes.
Drew
: i possibly could have a good fling with that six.
Christina
: i do believe you could. It had been a three, but yeah, you’re slamming it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that’s what I’m claiming, i am slamming it to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. I love that. They are an eight but all of their buddies tend to be directly.
Drew
: Okay, there seemed to be some discussion relating to this, because I think there is a needed help. I believe I perhaps had been on contrary area of many regarding the Autostraddle group whom asserted that it really is fine to simply have right friends. I wish to say that it’s fine, it is simply perhaps not the life I lead. All directly friends, that is going to go to a-two.
Christina
: Yeah, I’m going to must go along with you on that one, i’d simply think it is a tiny bit troubling, perplexing.
Drew
: All straight buddies?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: If they’re a new comer to queerness consequently they are attempting to fulfill a lot more queer folks, which is distinct from if they’re a recognised period queer who’s similar, guess what happens? I prefer becoming the one lesbian during my pal set of straight folks.
Christina
: Yeah, i might have the same manner if this ended up being an Ebony individual that was like, “There isn’t any Black pals,” I would wind up as, “what are you doing there?” Internally.
Drew
: We’re not in a network sitcom, we can’t have a token individual.
Christina
: you don’t have to become token, you should not do that to your self. Fine, we now have three a lot more. They are a seven but they spend-all their unique spare time in the gym, constantly strength training down and up. I’m not sure what folks would in the gym.
Drew
: all their free-time. I assume it depends about what counts as time. I’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: I’ll bump all of them down two.
Christina
: Bump all of them down.
Drew
: But that’s good. I guess it depends largely for me personally, that I’m not asking a follow concern, i am sticking with five, but it depends to me what truly matters as leisure time.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: are we able to enjoy movies collectively, or head out to consume, is the fact that spare time? Just isn’t operate time leisure time, or is it just like whenever we don’t possess alternative activities?
Christina
: we hear you, we hear you.
Drew
: But I’ll stay with five.
Christina
: All right. They may be six, but their mom is hotter than these are typically.
Drew
: Oh, I am not sure to go up or down.
Christina
: i understand, appropriate?
Drew
: I don’t think i possibly could previously date some body for their⦠It really is like basically’m maybe not drawn to some one originally, i am perhaps not gonna be online dating all of them.
Christina
: Correct.
Drew
: I’m not will be similar, well, they are able to develop into their unique hot mommy. I do believe I’d claim that they may be however a six, i am merely going to maybe not refer to them as and that I’m gonna phone their unique mommy.
Christina
: Yeah, I believe think its great’s like you stay equivalent, but perhaps I hang out with you a tiny bit longer than I would personally required-
Drew
: which is good point.
Christina
: In order to get some mom time. I really don’t believe you transform.
Drew
: used to do some thing actually poor that we nonetheless think defectively pertaining to, which can be that a person asked me on, this ended up being once I was at college, and I was not curious, therefore I had been clear about this, I found myself clear I found myselfn’t interested. Then again she wanted to end up being pals, and I could inform that she stated she wished to end up being pals nevertheless had been coming from destination-
Christina
: She had been hoping.
Drew
: Yeah. Nevertheless the thing is the fact that all of her friends were actually hot and cool, I really did stayed the woman pal in order to hang out with her friends. I did not lay about my personal intentions usually, nonetheless it nevertheless wasn’t the best thing Used to do as a 20 yr old.
Christina
: after all unfortuitously it just reminds myself of this bout of
Gender therefore the City
where Carrie’s matchmaking, I believe it’s Justin Theroux, and he sucks, but their family members rocks, and she’s like, i could try this for a bit. I’m like, yeah, completely, who could not.
Drew
: Carrie wasn’t wanting to hook up along with his family members, which is the difference, but you know what? Its great, we are all great.
Christina
: A hookup can look like any such thing, I’m always saying that.
Drew
: That’s a truly fantastic point.
Christina
: the last any, is actually a three but features a beach house.
Drew
: i am about to say a frustrating sentence, but we visited NYU.
Christina
: terrible to say.
Drew
: Something that sucks about me, which this can be likely to appear to be a humble brag, since it is in fact most likely a good figure characteristic, it sucks as someone going through the globe. I visited a school that’s full of rich individuals who have all kinds of amazing coastline homes, and all of these other stuff, and I also just became pals with folks who were there on scholarships. Not only, but mostly, I surely, i did not make friends with others who had coastline homes.
Christina
: You Probably Didn’t use.
Drew
: Yeah, I really think if they’re a three nevertheless they have actually a coastline home, they may be most likely a two. The truth⦠I’m not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you just can’t generate that jump to make use of the ill coastline house minute.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what I’m really wishing usually my friends that relatively down to earth, good men and women, more of these are simply browsing continue to have that brand new money then get beach houses, after which I’ll be capable spend time with my great buddies and get at a beach residence. That’s the fantasy where i possibly could get the beach house.
Christina
: this is the fantasy at the end of your day, its brand new cash and a coastline home, that’s all we are trying to find. You heard it right here 1st people.
Drew
: I adore brand-new cash.
Christina
: Love brand new cash.
Drew
: Love new cash. Yeah, which was a delight. I’d really, I would actually been willing to play that game since it was actually anything on TikTok, very thank you so much to make my personal desires be realized.
Christina
: I was thinking it could be a fun anyone to do, also it was actually extremely enjoyable to generate all of them.
Drew
: Well, should we proceed to our very own major sector of this few days, that’s falling for those who live in various other towns. And that’s diverse from long distance interactions, because cross country interactions may start really into a commitment, they could continue on into a relationship, this is basically the need that queer people have to check out their particular destination that they reside and go, no, I’m not going to flirt with these folks, i will carry on instagram.com and discover a person that life extremely a distance. Therefore have a, I know we usually state an extremely special guest, but also for me personally this is certainly a tremendously special guest. Do you want to introduce yourself?
Elise
: I would personally love to present me. Are I the special guest?
Drew
: you’re, yes.
Christina
: kid, obviously.
Elise
: Great, wow, amazing. My name is Elise Bauman, I’m a star, I’m a queer individual, and I also’m right here now because i am sleeping with among the many hosts.
Christina
: imagine what type?
Elise
: Yeah, the rest of the podcast is only the audience attempting decipher which number i am asleep with. I prefer that, it’s like a murder mystery but-
Christina
: there is no method to know.
Elise
: There’s no solution to understand. Yeah, does this create me a nepotism infant? Is the way the market really works.
Christina
: Yes, that is the industry really works, hottie.
Elise
: sweet, nice.
Christina
: this will be it.
Elise
: Wow, perhaps I could get a lifetime career using this.
Christina
: Fingers crossed individually.
Elise
: Nepo infant to career, wow, great. I’ve usually wanted to end up being a nepo infant.
Christina
: I’m therefore glad.
Drew
: Yeah, I found myself just browsing declare that for people who don’t know, really I am just ruining the murder mystery of it all, but Elise and that I are located in a relationship, and did begin relationship while in the pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and I also live in Los Angeles, which have been in reality various urban centers, and are usually in fact in different countries.
Elise
: These are typically undoubtedly, they are undoubtedly.
Christina
: And Drew, not saying you moved against your personal instinct, but i actually do feel as if you might be generally an individual who states, precisely why make use of a long length moment? You can find men and women right here i will date, why do this to your self? You are sure that it will likely be difficult, you know it will be challenging, so why do this? And yet here you might be.
Drew
: See, that’s interesting, because i’m like i appreciated to own a small amount of both, i simply think i did not make the long-distance types possibly as really.
Christina
: possibly that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But I always enjoyed a long length flirt.
Christina
: True.
Drew
: therefore i believe this just stored heading. Whenever we started-
Elise
: so that the solution, Drew, wasn’t that I found myself only irresistible and it had been personal in my experience, and that it had been very certain for me that I was just surprisingly attractive so that you simply broke all policies therefore said, “I have to have that certain.”
Drew
: I mean its type of the clear answer in an extended sense. In the sense so it only kept occurring. After which all of our close friends of the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, who I accustomed accept, as some people may already know, i’d often be like, I’d be trying to date individuals while in the pandemic in la and also the encompassing areas of Los Angeles. Right after which they’d make fun of me because i might sometimes just be want, “i am talking about, I could merely make an effort to date Elise Bauman.” I was constantly, “after all, {this person|this i